3 Reasons You Don’t Have Time for Anything

By Shelsey Jarvis

We’ve all said it. When we’ve been slacking on something we know we should be doing to improve our lives, our businesses, our relationships, or anything else.

“I don’t have time”.

The result of overusing this excuse is feeling like you’re always “playing catch up”. Maybe you feel like you never get to just relax, or do the things that YOU want to do. Maybe it’s creating resentment in your marriage, towards your clients, or even your kids.

And you’re saying, “yeah but I really DON’T have time to myself to work on my business!”, and I get that it feels like rock solid truth right now.

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I’m about to say something that will make you feel either really liberated, or really pissed off--the direction you take with it depends on how open you are to changing your situation.

Every time you say “I don’t have time”, you’re solidifying that in your reality.

Which means that it’s YOU who is creating this perceived lack of time. Yeah, I said it.

See, your truth right now is that there aren’t enough hours in the day for everything that needs to be done. But what IS truth, anyway?

All truth starts out as a thought, that was practiced into a belief, which, upon further practice, solidified into truth.

All truth starts out as a thought, that was practiced into a belief, which, upon further practice, solidified into truth.

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So if we approach it from that angle, that means that we can CHANGE our perception of time through practicing the thought, “I have all the time I need”. Mind-bending stuff, right?

Let’s put it another way in case you’re still thinking I’m smoking the good stuff right now:

When you are thinking “I don’t have time”, your brain and body kick into stress mode, and you’re trying to do ALL THE THINGS, and you tend to put unrealistic expectations on yourself.

Can we agree that you’re not exactly in “high vibe receiving mode” when you’re in that place?

Practicing a new thought

Right. So if you start telling yourself, “It’s okay, I have all the time I need, and everything that needs to get done will get done”, you’re going to train yourself to stay more calm and open to receiving inspiration. You’ll think more clearly and rationally, and you’ll often realize that most of the “deadlines” we impose on ourselves aren’t as real as we make them out to be.

I mean seriously--LOOK at your to-do list, and tell me honestly that it’s life-or-death if those things don’t get done today. I’m betting that’s not the case. When you’re thinking clearly, you can see which items on your to-do list don’t need to be done by you, which don’t need to be done today, and which don’t need to be done at all.

But when you’re in panic mode, EVERYTHING feels urgent.

So can you see now how practicing the thought “I have all the time in the world, and everything that needs to be done will get done” can turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy?

So let’s bring this down to earth again.

How DO I find more time for what I want?

The short answer to the question “how can I find more time to do X” is to make it a priority. And hey, that’s not exactly groundbreaking. You’ve heard that advice before, just make it a priority. Most personal development and time management experts will leave it at that. Simple, right?

But I don’t think you’d be reading this if you thought it was as simple as that. So let’s dig even deeper with the following question:

WHY haven’t you made it a priority yet?

And there are lots of reasons, but here are 3 big reasons that might resonate with you.

1.  You’re not crystal clear on what you want.

When you don’t have a clear idea of what you actually WANT in life, it’s pretty hard to take the action to get there. Not only do you not know how to get there, but you don’t even know what the destination is! No WONDER you’re paralysed.

If I were to ask 100 people on the street what they want in life, I’d bet you anything that 99 of them would look at me in surprise and say “Oh!.....well I don’t know, I guess I’ve never really thought about it”. And if that’s you, it’s not your fault--most of us don’t grow up in environments that encourage daydreaming.

It’s no wonder that most people just kinda drift around, not really making any moves in their life, and just letting everything “happen” to them.

But when you take the time to figure out what would be your idea of a perfect life, suddenly it becomes a hell of a lot easier to put your priorities in order.

And “I don’t have time” stops being an excuse for not living your potential, and it becomes a way to filter out all the stuff that won’t lead you there.

(Want some help with figuring this out? Check out Inspired Action Roadmap here--it’s an audio course that will help you nail down what you want, set the intention with the universe, and create an actual roadmap to getting there)

2.  You’ve got an underlying fear of failure--or success.

I can’t even BEGIN to cover all the possible scenarios within the scope of a blog post, but here we go.

You might be terrified not only of trying and failing, but you might ALSO be afraid of trying and succeeding. I know how crazy that sounds, but it’s more common than you think.

Whenever I ask a client “what are 20 downsides to getting what you want?”, initially they will usually say “I can’t think of any, I really really want this!”. But after throwing ideas around to see what sticks, it all comes pouring out. Turns out, they were subconsciously associating that thing they want with a WHOLE MESS of unwanted baggage.

In the case of “I want to earn 5 figures a month in my business”, some examples of downsides might be:

  • People might expect you to pay for everything

  • You’ll be one of those “rich snobs” you grew up hating

  • Friends or family might resent that you earn so much for doing what you love, when they’re working 40 hours a week at something they hate

  • You feel like rich people are greedy, don’t spread the wealth, and take advantage of others

And the list goes on and on and on.

With the entrepreneurs I’ve worked with, I’ve found that it’s actually more common to have a fear of success than it is a fear of failure. Because let’s face it--we get pretty comfortable with failure pretty quickly once we start taking risks!

(If you want to start digging deeper into subconscious fears and how to clear them, take a look at EFT Tapping for Money Blocks. It’s a great way to clear all that subconscious gunk that’s been sabotaging your success so you can welcome more moolah into your life.)

3.  You’re afraid to admit you don’t really WANT to.

Oooh, did I strike a nerve here? What if that thing you’ve been saying you want to do isn’t actually what you want? Maybe you’ve been saying for a while you want to do it, and you’ve been half-assed working towards it, so it feels kind of like “failing” to admit that you don’t want to do it anymore. Maybe it’s just no longer your idea of a perfect day.

Maybe you’ve sunk a lot of time, money, and energy into it, and it feels like all of it would be for nothing if you stopped now (even if stopping would make you happy).

For example, maybe you’re a doctor and you’ve been trying to get a private practice off the ground. But what you REALLY want is to sell watercolour paintings on Etsy. It would be incredibly hard to tell people around you that you no longer want to be a doctor, so you might use the excuse that you just don’t have time to promote your practice and subconsciously sabotage the whole thing.

We tend to let others’ expectations of us rule all sometimes. It goes back to the caveman days of not wanting to get your ass kicked out of the tribe, because that was a death sentence. So we humans are WIRED to seek approval, even when it goes against our wishes.

But it’s 2016, and it’s no longer a death sentence to be different. The only way you can get over this hurdle is by first admitting that it’s there. Being brutally honest with yourself and really deciding what YOU would want if money and outside opinions weren’t a factor.

I hope I’ve given you some good questions for you to chew on. If you still need some help cutting the overwhelm and finding a definitive direction in your business, download the “Screw Overwhelm: 3 Step Blueprint to Streamline Your Business” guide to clear your mental clutter and start gaining momentum today.

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Hey, I’m Shelsey, and I help female online entrepreneurs clear the mindset gremlins that are sabotaging you from the inner corners of your brain. Join me in the Left-Brained Hippies Facebook community!

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